Looking Back At It: 2017 at a Glance

Another year has come and gone and again I am in shock looking back at how much has changed in just 365 days. The person I was this time last year, is absolutely, unequivocally not the same person that is writing this today. I still marvel at how much people can change yet be the same!

Every New Year, Luther and I choose a word that we would like to focus on in the coming year in all aspects of my life. Some years we have used the same word but for the most part they change for each of us. The idea is that, from the personal to the professional, this word has to present in everything that I do. We each have to remind each other what our words are so we can be held accountable for steering our thoughts into the right direction.

For 2017 I chose the phrase "Get Out". For me, this meant, get out of your comfort zone, try new things, push yourself to learn more, grow more and do the things that you love. Therefore, I focused on doing more of the things that make me happy. Some things I knew for sure would work, while others were a complete surprise to me! In the past, I've used words/phrases like "Intentional" in 2016, "Growth" in 2015, and "Change" in 2014. All perfect for where I was in my life and where I felt that I needed to be. So 2017 was a bit different but again perfect for where I needed to be. Here is 2017 at a glance.

For starters, I attended several different conferences this year. I'm a true believer that you never stop learning and the more you know the more wealth you have in your pocket. The ones I attended this year were completely different from one another, yet equally inspiring and motivating.

 
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The Create and Cultivate conference was so out of the box for me. I actually found them on Instagram and wasn't entirely sure if it was meant for me but I took the plunge anyways! I could not have been happier. Every speaker and session was truly inspirational and the entire day was hands down an experience I will never forget. You can count on me being at one every year from here on out!

I also attended in the Live Grey conference in June and unbelievably, slept in a tent outdoors. My first time nonetheless! Another experience I will never forget. This conference focused on bringing "Humanity To the Workplace" and it was surprisingly emotional for me. It touched a lot on emotional intelligence, finding out what works for you and how you can build a team around you that can not only perform but also be happy while doing it. Life changing for sure.

Also, we rebranded! I can't believe this happened only in 2017 really since I've felt so close to this for such a long time now. Honestly, it was a much harder process than I thought it would be, but it really gave me the chance to sit and intentionally think about what I wanted my business and brand to communicate to others. It was interesting to think about my 'ideal client' and the experiences that I not only wanted for them, but for myself. The final product has me very proud and as I look back to what it took to get here, I feel very much at ease. Special thanks to Harper Maven for helping me put it all together!

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Another major milestone this year? We got engaged. It's still funny to say and to even think about but in the middle of 2017, my entire life and future changed with one helicopter ride above our city. This was a whirlwind of emotions. I giggled a lot for a few days and it didn't really hit me until I had to start using the term fiance which was also incredibly funny. 2018 has a lot in store for us. You can see a post of our Engagement Party Brunch HERE.

A few months later, our sweet friend Mikkel Paige captured our engagement pictures for us. You can see more of that HERE

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Another major goal I made in 2017 was to read at least one book a month. I've always loved to read and it has always brought me a lot of peace and joy. Marked as accomplished! I started some other books, I couldn't quite get in to but I feel like I'll start this tradition for every year from here on out. Not only am I proud of myself but I really did enjoy each and everyone of these. I hope this inspires people to read more!

The books I read in 2017:

  • Marriage of Opposites
  •  The Memory Keepers Daughter
  • The Pursuit of Happyness
  • The Girl On The Train
  • Room
  • 100 Days of Solitude
  • The Mothers
  • Imagine Me gone
  • Fly Away
  • The Life and Death of Sophia Stark
  • The Girl You Left Behind
  • Americanah

And in between books when I needed some down time, I started listening to podcasts for the first time ever. Needless to say, I am hooked. Inspirational, informative and funny, these were my favorite podcasts of 2017.

  • The Marie Forleo Podcast
  • Tim Ferris Show
  • Hidden Brain

Of course, and never ever last, I had the amazing opportunity to work with some fabulous vendors that helped create some memorable weddings this year. All unique in their own ways and full of memories I will never forget.

Like Ashley & Brian at the Metropolitan Building. Photography by Ayenia Nour

And Elide and Cam at the Union Club NYC. Photography by Mademoiselle Fiona

And Marissa and Brian at Tribeca Rooftop. Photography by Sasithon Photography

And our incredible, snow storm filled wedding of Katia and Luis at 501 Union. Photography by Ayenia Nour

2017 was the year of a lot of great things but I will be honest and say that it had a lot of trying times as well. A lot of tears and confusion and misunderstandings. Some of these things are still up in the air but I'm grateful because I now have the tools to figure out what works best for me and for the people I love. I've learned to eat better, take care of myself more, value myself and trust my thoughts, intuition and heart. It's been a wild ride but a necessary one. 

So my word for 2018? 'Consistency'. With everything I've learned this past year, I have decided that what I need to really focus on is being consistent with myself and holding myself more accountable for the things that I decide I want to focus on. It can be as simple as blogging more to even being more consistent with my decisions and my feelings towards certain situations and circumstances. Looking back at it, I feel that if I really sit down and own my thoughts, feelings and attitude about certain things, ANYTHING really, I can be more consistent with the outcomes of how I want to live my life daily.

Now as history would teach me, everytime I choose a word or phrase to focus on for the new year, I learn so much more beyond what I had initially thought I would. So this is going to be an interesting adventure. This time next year, I hope to have grown in so many different aspects of my life. Hopefully I can keep that tradition consistent. Here's to 2018 friends.

 photo by Hanna Cohen

photo by Hanna Cohen